Hands up who feels guilty when they slow down (or god forbid, stop/sleep/rest)? 🙋🏻♀️ I’ve been looking into the Astrological profiles of the people in our house more deeply lately and have had a lot of “ah-ha” moments. My go-go-go (or FOMO attitude as Tom calls it) is due to more than just fear of missing out. I’m kinda designed that way. Busy body to the max. That being said, even those of us who have ant in their pants need to sloooooooow the hell down. This. Is. Not. Easy. Especially with a 6 month at home. My tricks? Sleep schedule, the one thing that personally works for you to chill out, and a plan. See an outline of my (rough) plan below.
Find out what makes you tick
If you want to grab your own Astrology profile with an in depth explanation then you can either head over to the beautiful Amy at Sisters Village (sistersvillage.com) who does it with beauty and care or Cafe Astrology if you just wanna get a quick report. You can also look into your Human Design (Manifesting Generators and Generators are going to be on the go a lot more, and need a lot less rest, than Manifestors, Reflectors, and Projectors for example).
If you have a baby (or 5).....
I can't recommend getting babies sleep trained enough. Once we got Bella on a good schedule she was so much easier to handle and I have predictable times where I can work, sleep, nap, or just stare at the wall on one of those days. We use the Little Ones app. It is informative and outlines exactly what to do when stuff goes awry. They also have support on hand for questions. It's not the easiest interface to use however, so be warned, though I would still grab it for the info. It's helping us weather storms such as teething and the infamous "leaps". Check out the Wonder Weeks App (saving many a parent's sanity).
You can't run off an empty tank. Make sure you at least eat 3x a day, if not super healthy. I wouldn't recommend those meals come in the form of Cadbury wrappers either.... Cut down on your caffeine if you can too. Caffeine can last twice as long in a woman's body than a man so it will no doubt cut into your restful sleep time towards the end of the day if you're still hitting that java. Side note: the caffeine gets into breastmilk too so if bubs isn't sleeping so good either then look into this as well. Getting a good amount of protein, fats, and antioxidants is going to help you. Oats in the morning is easy and gives you energy for example where a berry smoothing can pump you up with a lot of vitamins, minerals, antioxidants and is quick (pop a raw egg or protein powder in and you boost your protein intake).
Create ease and flow
Make things easy for you. If money is tight then get inventive. I've been there and it sucks but you gotta do what you gotta do at times. I've found that pre-prep has saved so much time and stress in the long run. Also avoided a lot of arguments which can add to our emotional stress and exhaustion too. If your partner is not on board with a lot of stuff then it might be time to have a chat. Life can be done easier than a lot of us are managing. I totally know how crazy (and shitty) life can be with a newborn - 5 month old (it literally took me 5 months to see the light at the end of the tunnel) so I can hand-on-heart say that it was the little things that made it easier. We have a small apartment as I write this too so we've had to go IKEA-style with a lot of stuff. Get your nappies out and within easy reach. Stock them up so you don't run out. Make sure you have loads of wipes etc etc. For those without bubs, make your lunch the day before. Have a day where you plan your meals for the week and order online. If you have the money then get a subscription to something like Hello Fresh. THIS was what saved us those first few months. Now it's the Tefal Cook4Me. Get a clothes dryer for those rainy days or during the winter months if it will save you time and energy. I am a BIG supporter of the environment so avoided a dryer for years until I happened across heat pump dryers (we have the Bosch Heat Pump 9kg). It's a lot more environmentally friendly AND cheaper to run.
Finding that sweet spot/thing
I've always had a thing with music. ANY kinds of music. It has a very profound effect on me. Classical music, for instance, use to make me angry (yeah, weird huh). It now creates a lot of ease and creativity in me (can see what the fuss is about now lol). Pop boosts me up right away and dance music gets me amping. It also heals. I listen to it when I'm in pain and it does wonders for me. I use to drift off to sleep at night listening to Roxette and Queen when I was little. Bliss. I've recently re-discovered the beauty of music for me. It's that thing for me. Instant zone-out, stress relief. Find that thing for yourself. My mum loves colouring in and I know so many people who love reading. You need something to switch your brain off, maybe even feed it passively so it can de-stress and you can slow down. Binaural beats is fantastic for this as well (check out Sonesence for amazing tracks using what she calls meditones).
Steps to take
1. Grab your astrology and/or Human Design profile(s) and have a read. See if you are designed for the Autobahn life or if you need to chill out more (burn out is a bitch so honour how you are made up. There is no shame/lack in being the way you are). It might not be a bad idea to do this for others in your house either. Information is power. If you want to suss out your Human Design more then check out Karen Curry's book "Understanding Human Design".
2. Get bubs on a solid sleep/feeding schedule - if no baby, get yourself on one. In bed by ___ and up by ___. Weekends included. Your circadian rhythm will thank you and so will your body + mind.
3. Figure out how you can eat consistently and healthier. Do you need to plan for the week ahead? Pre-prep food for the week and pop it in the fridge/freezer? Sign up to Hello Fresh (or similar)? Hire a chef? Get your mum to help out?
4. Make a list of all the things in your life that eff you off due to it being a pain in the behind to do. Do you need to get a small travel pram to get in and out of the apartment easier? Do you need to pack your lunches the night before? Get a dryer? Faster internet connection so you can work from home? Tip: Do small upgrades leading in to bigger ones so you don't feel overwhelmed.
5. Be opportunistic and just do. I know some of us need time to process etc. but sometimes you just gotta grab opportunities as they present themselves. Life is easier when you can bend and flex a little, and just get stuff done.
5. Once you have all this in place then figure out when you can grab time to yourself. Figure out what you can do during this time that would give you the most bang-for-your-rest-buck i.e. is it sleep? Is it listening to music? Is it reading? Going for a walk? You get the gist.