- a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over an occurrence or something that one has done or failed to do.
I had an interesting experience last night. For the past few months, I've tried to get into the habit of asking if what I am feeling is actually mine. I'm sensitive; I pick up on other's thoughts and feelings quite easily. And unbeknownst to me, I took all this on board and treated every emotion and thought I had as coming from myself. I realised how easy it was for me to link up with others by coming across various articles that resonated with how I was feeling and what I was experiencing. I also came across numerous ones that suggested to ask yourself if those thoughts and feelings are yours when you experience a sudden changing in being. I have always "seen" words in my mind's eye so for me it's a big fat yes or no - rather nice and simple actually. So the experimenting naturally start and I'm getting rather good at decipherings who's shit is whos - you'd be surprised how much we take on of others.....
.... which leads me to write about regret today. As I was practising sitting with myself and raising emotions from the dark depths of my subconscious, I asked my body what feeling it is expressing right now (I say express as I am working with physical pain caused by emotions at the moment). I was expecting the usually anger or frustration but what surprisingly came up was regret.
Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future
- Fulton Oursler
I've long let go of regretting actions I took, interactions I had, things I'd forgotten, people I'd missed (well, mostly - there are times when I might get a slight pang - I am only human after all). It was one of those emotions that tore at me often, especially when I was little; and I now know why. You see, I don't believe the regret that's now surfacing, that's now sitting in my body bringing up pain as a way of staying hidden, is in fact mine. Further questioning of said subconscious narrowed down the culprits and formed a picture of a timeline of when this all got nice and stuck in my psyche. Let me tell you that it's been sitting there a long time. Addressing this has given me clarity, and we know how powerful just knowing can be. If you're working with your own regret (or even someone else's) then below's suggestions might be useful for you to try.
- Meditation - good 'ol meditation! There's nothing that works better for me personally to gain clarity than sitting still with my mind for a good 20-30 min. Ask your subconscious questions, ask your body to tell you how this emotion is being stored. As it if it is indeed yours.
- Essential oils - good ones to use for this sort of work would hands down be the Forgive and Console blends from doterra. If you use other brands then choose aim for your Bergamot, Spruce, Myrrh, Juniper Berry and Thyme. As well as Frankincense, Arborvitae, Patchouli, Ylang Ylang, Rose, and Sandalwood*
- If you are suffering from physical pain due to your emotions but not quite sure which emotions are causing what then you can try The Secret Language of Your Body by Inna Segal and Heal Your Body by Louise Hay
- Talk it out - find a supportive person that you trust in wholeheartedly and ask them to be your sounding board. Notice the triggers that rise as they converse with you and the emotions you feel. I'd only recommend this to those who are very clear on telling the difference between their own and another's "stuff" quickly.
- If it is indeed yours, ask yourself what about the situation you regret. It's beneficial to us to remember how impermanent life is and regretting never serves us. It's an emotional anchor that keeps us stuck in the past. FIgure out what it is you are actually going through emotionally and why, then follow up with "what can I learn from this?".
*see a list of the emotional profiles of these oils HERE
The more we get the know ourselves and the more we unravel the confusion around the emotional turmoil within, the more freedom our mind, body, and soul will have to express, do, enjoy, play, and learn.
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